White Skin Privilege

                  Our generation didn't build the house of racism,

                   but we are living in it and reaping its benefits.

My White Culture Dream

I have awoken from a dream where my claim to goodness and my stated belief in equality had been deeply challenged. It has been challenged by the undeniable reality that despite my good deeds, words, and intentions, that I have, for all of my life, turned a blind eye to racial inequality. Oh sure, I saw the inequality and thought it very unfair, but I didn’t realize that I play a part in maintaining that inequality and have benefitted from it all my life. That has been a very painful recognition and a huge blow to my self-image of being a good and loving person. 

 

 

As a husband, father, psychotherapist, author, dance leader, and director of a non-profit organization, major portions of my life have been dedicated to serving others and adding positivity to the world. However, I have been absolutely blind to my own complicity in maintaining racism through my silence. I’ve been complicit by thinking that treating people of color kindly and feeling compassion for their plight, that I could certainly not be held responsible for the current inequality. I didn’t feel implicated in the horrible news stories.
 
I was wrong.
 
I have finally come to realize, after 67 years, that by reaping the benefits of racial inequality, I was complicit in maintaining the racism in our system. My silence was powerful because it supported the status quo. Through my silence, I was allowing systemic racism to continue while benefitting from it. Through my silence, I was an accessory to the crimes of injustice.
 
I’m happy for everyone to read my blogposts, but I am writing specifically to my white-skinned brothers and sisters. Why? Because if racism is to be eradicated from our society, it will take white people to do it for we hold the power in a society that is structured to make sure it stays that way.
 

If you’re a good white person, you might find some major internal resistance kicking in about right now. Counter-arguments often immediately surface in white people to any notion that we are responsible in any way for the continuance of racism. I understand. I’ve been there. We white people are very sensitive to feeling unjustly accused of something we believe we had no hand in creating nor maintaining. I’ll give you a pass on not creating racism, but each us doing damage if we are not actively working to counter racism.

I am writing plead with you to take an honest look at the privileges in your life that your white skin affords you. Those privileges are the proof that we live in two very different America’s, depending on the color of your skin. If you are willing acknowledge that inequality and you believe in a just and equitable world, it becomes untenable to continue to stay silent and to reap the benefits of that inequality.

The time for change is now.

George Floyd gave the world an enduring image that was so disturbing that it became the tipping point for a tolerance of continued racism. The embers of racism were stoked and have grown into a bonfire of momentum where more and more white people are awakening to the reality that America can no longer stay in denial about the racism that is prevalent in our major institutions, our culture, and in our daily lives. It is time for change—real change.

I was lulled to sleep by the Civil Rights Act in 1965 and consoled myself by saying that change was slow, but we were making progress. I told myself that the election of Barack Obama was surely evidence of great progress. Imagine America giving more votes to a black man than one who was white! But one black man’s success was not indicative of white acceptance. In fact, there was a backlash against his presidency that revealed a deep and unhealed prejudice toward those with black skin. That backlash only got stronger during the four years of Donald Trump’s presidency.

I will explore many different facets of our dominant white culture in other blogs with the hope that, if you are a person with white skin, that you will come to the realization that if you are not actively working to end racism, that you are supporting it. That’s a very hard concept for us white people to wrap our heads around, but if racial justice and racial equity are ever going to come to fruition, it will take white people to make that change happen. We have the power and that’s a privilege that we can put to good use. That’s a privilege that we must use to create positive change.

I have a doctorate in counseling psychology and have been a psychotherapist for 35 years. My work centers around helping others to heal from trauma, release old beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve them, and cultivate new patterns that allow them to thrive.  stevensmithpsychologist.com

I am also an author of a book based on 5 life-enhancing principles, titled, “Living Your Best: A Powerful Blueprint for Personal Transformation.”   https://stevensmith-author.com/